Adjust your expectations. Oftentimes we become so caught up in gift-giving that we lose sight of the real reason for celebrating. One young woman remembers a year when several family members contracted a severe strain of flu in the weeks before Christmas, which kept them from their normal flurry of shopping and preparations. Though each person had several gifts to open on Christmas morning, none were extravagant. “That is one of the best Christmases we’ve had,” the young woman says. “Instead of being caught up in what we received or feeling disappointed about what we were missing, we spent the day talking and playing games with each other. That brought the Christmas spirit to our home in abundance.”
The best way to save money is for parents to agree that Christmas is not a time to give children every gift they ask for—and to follow through on that agreement. Then they can begin teaching their children. One family does this by letting each child choose the gift that he wants most—within a stated price limit. If the child wants to make an extended list, the parents make it clear that this is only a suggestion list and that not every gift will be possible.
Plan your spending. Before you begin your shopping, determine how much money you have to spend, then decide how you want to divide it among the people to whom you want to give gifts. Make a list of the items you plan to buy, then stick to it. If you do purchase an item that is not on your list, cross off another item instead of buying both.
To help her control her spending, whenever one mother goes shopping, she takes along a notebook in which she keeps a list of gifts she has purchased for each child and a running total of the amount of money she has spent on each.
Just before Christmas, another couple sets aside one gift from among the gifts they have purchased for each child to save for that child’s birthday.
Look for sales. One way to save money is to do your shopping a little at a time throughout the year rather than doing it all at the last minute. This allows you to buy when things are on sale. An added bonus is that it gives you time to enjoy the holidays rather than coping with the crowds in the stores.
Many stores have sales on toys in the summer. Sporting goods and clothes are reduced in price at the end of each season. Watch newspapers for sales on items you want, and take advantage of special promotions, coupons, manufacturers’ closeouts, and store clearances. Ask salespeople if the item you want will be going on sale. (Be sure to estimate how much children will have grown and to consider how their interests might change by Christmas!)
One mother has her teenage children track prices on items that they want for Christmas. She doesn’t tell them what she buys, so there is still an element of mystery on Christmas morning. But having them check the ads saves her time and teaches them about being wise consumers.
Before you buy, learn about product performance, price, safety, and quality through consumer or government publications. A better quality item that costs more may be the better value because it will last longer.
Give of yourself. Make clothes, toys, and games. Give friends and relatives simple, inexpensive remembrances such as baked goods, family photographs, or handmade Christmas decorations. Along with saving money, you can create gifts of yourself that your loved ones will treasure. But be sure to start these projects early. There is no better way to lose the Christmas spirit than feeling the frustration of rushing to finish a handmade Christmas project.
Ask for the Lord’s help. Although Christmas shopping may seem an unusual thing to pray about, remember that to God all things are spiritual. One father remembers a Christmas when unexpected expenses left him and his wife little money to buy gifts for their five children and for each other. So they made up their budget, then asked the Lord to help them find gifts that would be useful as well as fun for their children. They were amazed at the results: the clothes they chose turned out to be less expensive than others on the rack, and they found low-priced, quality toys that matched their children’s interests. Their funds stretched further than they ever believed they could.
Don’t give up. Changing habits takes time. So if you don’t do as well as you’d like the first time, keep trying. After Christmas, evaluate your spending and set new goals for the future. With persistence and commitment, you’ll find yourself becoming more disciplined every year.