Anyone that has worked to obtain the rank of an Eagle Scout recognizes the many learning opportunities provided. Each requirement that is laid out for these boys can be looked at as stepping stones of progression. I know is the case even though I never had the opportunity to become an Eagle Scout myself. If you have read any of my previous articles, you may recall that I grew up in Canada and did not participate in any Boy Scouts of America programming. While I have learned many of these lessons through my personal experiences, I wish that I had a program that laid out the path and gave necessary guidance.
In this three-part series, I will highlight three specific roles that obtaining an Eagle will help with: becoming a better husband, father and a provider (either an employer or employee).
Becoming a Better Husband
These four words have been on my mind daily in the past few months. In just a few weeks, I will take the plunge and marry the girl of my dreams. While it’s mostly sunshine and daisies right now, this will not always be the case. Life is designed to take many different turns, some filled with despair, frustration, and stress. To be successful in this role, one must wear many different hats and be willing to adapt. How might obtaining your Eagle prepare you for this? Let me suggest three reasons.
Oath and Law: Principles to Live By
Understanding the principles of the Scout Oath and Law and applying them will help young men set patterns for success and will assist in developing character. As a husband, it is clear that staying morally straight and learning to help your spouse are necessary attributes. Keywords in the Scout Law such as loyal, kind, cheerful and reverent are all aspects of a successful marriage.
Badges: Developing Merit
As marriage is an equal partnership, it is needful that young men develop many life skills. Merit badges required for Eagle Rank specifically assist young men in developing these skills. Let’s look at a few examples.
- Personal Management – understanding finance, budgeting and time management as husband and wife can help you make wise money decisions and remove one of the greatest pressures on a relationship.
- Cooking – it is critical to prepare healthy and cost-effective meals in the early stages of building a family together. This is also a great opportunity to create a shared responsibility.
- Communication – knowing how to establish proper lines of contact and expressing themselves fully can help couples cope with trials.
- Citizenship – helping in your community, nation or somewhere in the world can help a couple to develop charity together and grow closer together.
Service: A Lifelong Endeavor
The service project is designed to benefit the lives of others. Serving your spouse is a critical component to a healthy marriage. Ezra Taft Benson said, “The secret of a happy marriage is to serve God and each other. The goal of marriage is unity and oneness, as well as self-development. Paradoxically, the more we serve one another, the greater is our spiritual and emotional growth.” As a young man plans and executes his Eagle service project, he can develop this sense of service and will, in the end, help to strengthen his marriage.
A Different Kind of Resume
Most people only take the time to craft a resume for the workplace. I suggest writing a different kind of resume as well. You can write an informal “resume,” considering the skills and attributes necessary for being a good husband. While I still have the long, exciting adventure of marriage ahead of me, I know that these principles will help us all become more dedicated, sacrificing and caring husbands.
Comment below and share how you became a better husband by getting your Eagle Scout Award.
Author: Colin Wylie | Marketing Associate, Utah National Parks Council