By Utah National Parks Council
Aug 27, 2017

Let Them Lead: Valuing Others

Everyone around us has unique talents, goals, interests, and skills. At the same time, we are all children of God. Understanding and embracing the things that make us different while recognizing how we are all the same will help us relate better to others.  

In a talk about the differences between people in the Church, President Dieter F. Uchtdorf said

“Brothers and sisters, dear friends, we need your unique talents and perspectives. The diversity of persons and peoples all around the globe is a strength of this Church.” 

Prepare yourself spiritually

What makes you different from those around you? How do you deal with those differences when you interact with others? What does it mean to you that we are all children of God? 

How will learning to value everyone, differences and all, change the lives of these youth? 


Have you ever had to overcome your differences with someone else? How did you do it? 

How can the youth learn to embrace their differences and not bow to peer pressure?

Prayerfully study these scriptures and resources. What do you feel inspired to share with the youth? 

D&C 46:11-33 (Gifts of the Spirit)
D&C 18:10 (Worth of souls is great) 
President Thomas S. Monson “See Others as They May Become” October 2012.  
President Thomas S. Monson “Love—The Essence of the Gospel” April 2014.  
President Dieter F. Uchtdorf  “Come, Join with Us” October 2013.  
Video: “I was a Stranger: Love One Another”  
Video: “Reach Out with Love” 

Other resources from your personal experience and inspiration

Teaching in the Savior’s way

Jesus Christ loved those he taught. He prayed for them and continually served them. How can you show your love for the youth you teach? 

Teaching tip: Watch this video to learn how to help the youth find answers in a conference talk: “Finding Answers in a Conference Talk”


Make connections

Each of the activities below will help the young men and women understand the importance of valuing others for their differences. Complete each of the three sections by prayerfully selecting one or more activity in each section that resonates with you and will work best for your class or quorum:

1- Recognize that both the similarities we share with others and our differences can help groups be stronger. 

Choose from these activities: 

  • Give each participant a 4-foot length of rope. Show participants how to tie a toss knot.Let them practice for a few minutes. Explain that a lot can be done with a single rope. It’s the same with people. One person alone can accomplish a great deal. 

Next, have participants practice tying a square knot (instruct if necessary using this video). Explain that square knot is a joining knot, which makes it great for joining together two rope ends. Each end brings strength to the knot, which could not exist with only one end. Have the participants tie one end of their rope to the end of the rope of another member of their class or quorum using a square knot. If everyone ties the knot one time, all ropes should be linked in a circle.  

Tell the youth to look at the strength formed by all these different kinds of rope joined together. The joining knot symbolize all the members of a group joining together to make the strongest possible team. Just as these ropes are both the same and different from one another, members of teams draw strength from the ways they are similar and ways they are different. One of the ways all of us here are similar is that we can all tie a square knot. That shared ability allows us to join together in ways that wouldn’t be possible if we shared nothing in common. Have the youth think about how this principle applies in their lives outside of camp. Have them share some ideas. 

  • Other activities to demonstrate the importance of diversity as you are inspired 

2- Understand that the Young Women Theme and the Scout Oath and Law guide us in valuing other people 

Choose from these activities: 

  • Have the young women recite the theme and the young men recite the Scout Oath and Law. Explain that these themes represent our common values and foundation. Having these common values gives us strength and helps keep us together. But if everyone in the class were exactly the same, there wouldn’t be as much to learn from one another. Diversity helps us grow and progress. Ask how the theme and Oath and Law help us understand the importance of valuing everyone, even when they are different from us. 
  • Have the members of quorum or class talk about what makes them different from the others. Talk about all the differences between your group’s members. Be creative! Have them share their ideas.
  • Explain that at some time, each of us has felt different from other people. Ask, what are some of your experiences of times when you realized you were different from other people? 
  • What were the consequences of being different? What were your feelings about it? 

Each of us has characteristics that make us unique. We all have knowledge and experiences that set us apart from other people. We can each contribute something special to the groups to which we belong. We can also come together through shared values, like the theme or Oath and Law.  

Ask, how can diversity strengthen a group? (Among the possible answers: “Each of us has traits that make us unique and each of us has knowledge that we can use to add to our experiences and the experiences of others.”) 

Ask, can diversity ever be a problem for a group? Have them share examples. 

  • Other activities to help the youth value others more as you are inspired 

3- See that we have a responsibility to act in an ethical manner in our dealings with people whose core values differ from our own. 

Choose from these activities: 

  • Explain that groups work best when everyone in the group shares the same basic values. But we will all face the challenge of responding to people who don’t have the same basic values. Everyone is different. Many people do not share all of our values. But there may be many things about each one of them that we can appreciate, value, and respect.  

Ask participants: how should we treat people who do not share all of our core values? What did Jesus Christ teach us about how to treat others? Ask the youth to share some experiences about how they’ve responded to people who don’t share their values. 

Explain that they can also use the tools for making ethical decisions. At its heart, the way we respond to people whose values are not the same as ours is an ethical decision. Use the Checklist for Ethical Decision Making. 

  • Other activities to help youth learn to relate to those who are different as you are inspired 

4- Use ROPE principle to strengthen their classes and quorums. 

Choose from these activities: 

  • Diversity in any group is important for that group’s success. The best way to promote diversity in your class and quorum is to embrace differences and invite others to participate. Think of the ROPE principle: 
  • Reach Out—The first step is to reach out to others. Invite them to come to activities or Sunday classes. Make them feel welcome and included. 
  • Organize—Make a plan to help everyone feel welcome and included. Give everyone assignments so they feel they are contributing. 
  • Practice—Use the leadership skills you’ve learned this week, like Leading and Teaching EDGE to build on the diversity of your group. Make sure every voice is heard. 
  • Experience—Focus on having great experiences that bring your group closer together and closer to God. 

Ask the youth to plan in their class or quorum how to use ROPE to include those who aren’t participating or to invite others to join. Have them write down specific people they could include a plan to invite them to participate. 

  • Other activities to help youth strengthen their classes and quorums as you are inspired

Invite to Act

Lead a reflection on diversity and valuing people. 

Ask the youth how they will use what they learned about valuing people to change their actions in the future. What will they do differently today, tomorrow, this week, and this year? Have them write down their ideas. 

Discuss with the youth what their next skill application challenge will be. Ask them to consider how what they’ve learned about valuing people applies to the challenge. Encourage them to apply their new skills and ideas to the activity.  

This series was adapted from National Youth Leader Training to help leaders teach LDS youth leadership skills so that those leaders can confidently “Let Them Lead.”

Authors: Maria Milligan and Darryl Alder | LDS NYLT writing team; at Utah National Parks Council, Maria is Chief of Staff and Darryl is Strategic Initiatives Director. Together they help LDS Stakes meet their camping and training needs in a customized basis.



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